“There is a unique pain that comes from preparing a place in your heart for a
child that never comes”
Approximately 1 in 8 couples struggle to get pregnant. Dealing with infertility could be depressing and a major challenge for you and your partner. The news of pregnancy announcements from your friends or colleagues while you’re not getting pregnant might be emotionally distressing. Overthinking and prolonged periods of anxiety are a part of coping with infertility issues as your dreams are altered and the relationship with your partner may be tested.
Feelings of anger, disbelief, guilt, anxiety, and depression are somewhat predictable when a couple deals with infertility. These feelings must be acknowledged and addressed with the help of counselling and self-care.
Several factors contribute to decreased fertility, however, many couples are unaware of the same. Getting diagnosed with infertility can bring a chronic state of stress that might lead to depression. During this time it is important that you don’t become isolated as it can affect you in many ways. How you cope up with it depends on you and the people around you.
Here are a few things that might help you get through it:
Stop feeling bad
People in your life should be understanding as to how hard it is for you to cope. If you need to maintain a distance from your pregnant colleagues/relatives for a while, do that. It’s okay if you decline invites to attend a baby shower. If you know something might make you feel worse about your situation there is absolutely no shame in avoiding it.
Self-protection is more important, but don’t isolate yourself from your friends. You could always be in touch with them by calling or texting them.
Find a fertility clinic that supports you
Any fertility clinic that has a professional team of gynaecologists and IVF experts, on whom you can rely on for help and support. Fertility clinics may offer group meetings, where you can meet other couples who have fertility problems. This will help you to sit and talk with someone who is facing similar issues and understands what you’re really going through. You can learn a lot from each other.
Find a fertility support group
You can find a support group with whom you can discuss the issues you are facing and understand how they coped up with them. Experiences of other couples can help you learn how to deal with your problems and guide you emotionally.
Don’t compare your fertility journey with other people’s
When you are undergoing a fertility treatment you will be meeting a lot of people in the clinic who are facing fertility problems. It is not compulsory that two couples will have similar treatments going on. You should remember that no two people live the same life because we all have to follow our own path.
Infertility is one of the toughest challenges you can face in life, but that doesn’t mean you won’t get your happy ending. It’s possible that you may take a little longer than others.
Take care of your body
Making healthy lifestyle changes may help to improve your fertility. Quitting smoking, eating healthy food and exercising regularly to maintain a healthy weight are lifestyle changes that can help improve your overall health.
Communicate with your partner
During your infertility journey communication is very important. You should not allow infertility to take a toll on your relationship. Communication is essential to ensure that you and your partner are supporting one another through this challenging time.
Keep in mind that infertility affects both of you and supporting each other is crucial at this point in time. Share your feelings with one another and seek counselling if required.
Get informed about your options
To be relieved from some stress it is important for you to be aware of your present situation. Understanding the cause of infertility and deciding the next step is very important.
Talk to your fertility doctor/counsellor who can guide you and support you during your journey. They will offer you emotional support and counselling needed on ongoing treatments.
Find ways to manage your stress
Learning mind-body techniques such as meditation, yoga, breathing may help you combat your stress as well as balance your life. Remember that stressing out will not help you solve your infertility issues.
There’s no doubt that dealing with infertility could be challenging but if you have the right support it can help make your fertility journey a positive and memorable experience. You need to know that every dark cloud has a silver lining.
“The secret to life is to fall seven times and to get up eight times”
– Paulo Coelho